February 2012
today's reminder
trust your gut.
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dear internet
I have not written to you for a few days and I was feeling vaguely guilty about it but I think I’m gonna spend some time today writing on paper instead.
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“I don’t think it’s a virtue or an accomplishment to hide or deny your pain so...”
– #186: The lie of “strength.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via notemily)
Which is why “strong black woman” has never been a goddamn compliment. It is code for “Thank you for being a mule.”
(via crankyskirt)
Thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis.
(via secretarysbreakroom)
lessons I need to remember.
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“You aren’t afraid of love, sweet pea. You’re afraid of all the junk you’ve yoked...”
– DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #41: Like An Iron Bell - The Rumpus.net
It is all Isabel’s fault that I am reading Dear Sugar before bed.
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Women Box →
this is amazing—WNYC has a whole podcast of women boxers leading up to the Olympics. love. so much love.
I’ve spent a good chunk of time in a boxing gym, and I have such love for the sport, and the men and women who do it.
“If you can get hit, and hit a person back, you have to have heart.”
Also, this is fucking excellent radio. And I’m a radio nerd. With the...
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Write one leaf in which you admit to not knowing...
writeoneleaf:
| Write One Leaf + about + ask + random + facebook + twitter | sponsors + You Are a Dog [kindle]
oh goodness.
I almost never do these prompts anymore. But I can’t resist this one.
I don’t know what I’m doing pretty much every day of my life at some point, and especially lately. With everything that’s gone on in the last few months, I feel like...
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“Even though it’s fun to use terms like social arsonist I think that I am now...”
– Melissa Chadburn | Occupy the Spaces Between | The Nervous Breakdown
I’ve been thinking about this all morning. About how I am living right now in the spaces between—between a year and especially a fall full of changes, between next moves on the chessboard that is my love life, between...
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“Let me break it down for you: she’s writing herself into existence. She’s giving...”
– Liz Phair on Why Lana Del Rey Scares Rock’s Boys Club - Speakeasy - WSJ
Liz Phair is fucking awesome.
And this—what I was talking about with Meg, with Melissa, with so many people—the rage at women who aren’t “overwhelmingly talented” but dare to speak up...
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“A little later, with a child and then two children sleeping across the hall, I...”
– Night Shifts - The Rumpus.net
So I read this on Isabel’s recommendation, and it is really good, but it’s also been bothering me all morning.
I think it’s because the dichotomy it presents is in some way my worst nightmare—the idea that when you get comfortable, you lose the...
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listening to a radio show about people who...
milkeemountainmama:
interesting. they say the biggest problem is that there’s no language to talk about the *deep* issues around sex. that we can talk about things like “orgasm” and “facials” and “pussy” (they did not say this on the radio, just examples)—but we don’t have the language or the space to talk about things like: i love my partner, but they have never satisfied me. or: teaching kids...
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oh, Tumblr
I have had All The Feelings this week and all I hope for today is to have a rest from some of them. It’s been a rollercoaster, a motherfucker of a week that at times felt like it had wrapped me in sandpaper.
Other times I felt buoyant, like I was walking on springs, like nothing could keep me down. I cried in public and on someone’s shoulder and laughed a lot, drank wine with...
CHRISTINA LEG
jawnita:
All I’m saying is, when Carrie (from Carrie) had a period accident (in the gym shower! and she thought she was dying!), it was the catalyst for her LIFE-ALTERING TELEKINESIS. Christina Aguilera (possibly) had one while singing Etta James, at Etta James’ funeral. HOW FUCKING TRANSFORMATIVE IS THAT?! This chick about to control the weather systems, and stop the Mayan Apocalypse.
She’s...
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“BLVR: I want to ask you about the idea of the “extreme or doomed commitment.”...”
– The Believer - Joan Didion
this is beautiful. particularly since she’s saying this after having lost her husband and her daughter…on the other side of loss, the doom is less terrifying and the salvation is visible.
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“JD: Sometimes an actor performs a character, but sometimes an actor just...”
– The Believer - Joan Didion
oh, Joan. And the interviewer couldn’t wrap her head around this at all.
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“Reduced to its biological preconditions, the insular structure of the...”
– Angela Davis, “Women and Capitalism: Dialectics of Oppression and Liberation”
Angela Davis, y’all. If more Feminists read Angela Davis, Feminism wouldn’t annoy me so much. This was in 1977, when she was in jail.
Anyway, this passage may be dense and hard to get through but...
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“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle,...”
– James Baldwin (via creativedreadhead)
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“I have always thought of myself as the one daring enough to take a chance on...”
– Lauren Cerand (via melissa)
reblogging this again. because I would always rather have taken the risk than not.
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“There are four major national breast-cancer organizations, of which the...”
– Barbara Ehrenreich - Welcome to Cancerland
Ehrenreich said it all, re: Komen, a couple of years ago. The whole essay is great, as is her whole book, Bright-Sided, which is relevant any time anyone tells you to cheer up instead of getting pissed off.
January 2012
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museums
yesterday I took a work break for a couple of hours and went with some dear friends over to the Brooklyn Museum to catch their 1920s art exhibit and also Hide/Seek, which most of you may remember from the controversy over David Wojnarowicz’s “Fire In My Belly”, which was removed from the show at the National Portrait Gallery because fuck those assholes.
Melissa and I put the...
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“Taking care of people is only work when they fight you over it.”
– this was my insight yesterday, stepping out of the shower, based on something J said to me what feels like ages ago but was probably last month.
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“Because of all this want, we sometimes are afraid we feel too much. Some of us...”
– The Throwaways - The Rumpus.net
more from Melissa Chadburn, because I am in love with her writing and just sent her a fan email, and because this this this this.
also am thinking about waking up next to someone, or rather thinking about waking up next to someones and how different it can feel....
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“Let’s face it; we’re a generation with no tolerance for longing.”
– Melissa Chadburn | The Spookiness of Want and ‘The Marriage Plot’ | The Nervous Breakdown
I really liked Melissa Chadburn’s writing when someone first told me to read her and I thought of that today and went looking for her again and found this.
And—oh yeah.
I think of the...
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