My mom made a comment today about how she would have liked it if I’d had kids. You guys, I am 28. I am not 50. I am not even fucking 35. I haven’t had a serious relationship in a few years, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t had any relationships at all. There’s been dudes. Anyway, it really fucking bothered me. Most of the time this whole societal pressure thing doesn’t get to me because you know, I made a choice. I could have married my boyfriend, and stayed at home with him and the cat watching Netflix forever. But, I wasn’t ready for it. I needed to get out and fuck up some more. I needed to take care of some shit. And so, I did. And you know, it was worth it. It still is. So you know, fuck it, I am a spinster. She’s right, I’ll probably never get married or have kids. But, it still hurts to hear someone else say it. It makes me feel like everything I’ve done is totally worthless because I don’t have a kid or a man around.
:( I’m so sorry. I don’t want kids, so it doesn’t really bother me as much when people say this, but it does friggin’ grate to be not even 30 and have people write you off. (I’m 29.)
I made a similar choice—I was engaged and chose to end it rather than be with someone who wasn’t right for me, and there’s nothing more annoying than to be faced with people’s pity for me being single.
