"The headline “Tweet Less, Kiss More,” worries me not because it suggests kissing is dying out but rather because it says kissing is the answer. As our social culture relocates away from physical presence, we have begun to idealize physical interaction, and idealization is always dangerous. As objects or behaviors become obsolete, we recall them in our imagination more perfect and more easily navigable than they ever actually were. People use typewriters and wear corsets because they experience these objects’ very inconvenience as a kind of romance. But when it takes romanticized fantasies to bring an object back into present use, we are prone to lose sight of its complexities, its evasions. If kissing a stranger becomes as whimsical as wearing a useless monocle or riding a one-speed bike, more an evocation of cherished memories than a regular practice, we may begin to unduly idealize physical relationships, to ignore its real difficulties and paint sexual intimacy in a single, sunny hue."
as she goes on to point out, part of the magic of physical contact, physical intimacy, is that so often it’s not beautiful. and that sometimes an email, a letter, a simple throwaway line, is more meaningful than a hundred lousy kisses.